My 20s were pretty much fucked up! Most of the kids either finish or are in the final year of college when they are 20 years old but, I started with my graduation at that age (why so late? that is another story to tell).
A month before my 21st birthday I lost my grandfather and my life came tumbling down. Being the only child I found it difficult to cope up with the loss as I had nobody around to cry out my heart to, to understand what I was going through emotionally and I got lost in my own world of sorrow. Being in a distance relationship sucked big time. My college life was sad, basically I got myself enrolled in a private fashion institute giving distance learning degree from an Indian university. The institute was set up in 1500 sq ft office space and I didn’t enjoy being there at all. I had shut myself down and didn’t like making new friends. I used to wait desperately for my school friends to come back to the city so that i can have a bit of life and I think I never told them how much I missed them but, I did tell my then boyfriend now my husband, how much i wished he was around but I always used to get practical advise from him and I didn’t like it at all. The most happening year of my life was the 23rd year when I moved to another city for a diploma course and let me tell you, I felt alive. Had I stayed back at home, my parents would have gotten me married.
Anyway, so now coming back to the topic, it is a compilation of advice from me and my friends that we would like to tell our 20 years old self (early 20s) and here they are-
1. Educate Yourself – Education is a very powerful tool. To be able to make better decisions in life one needs to have good information about the facts and the world we live in. Studying helps one become more aware, get the knowledge / wisdom required to live the life in best possible way. Studying can be theoretical as well as experiential.
2. Set Good Habits – Do not under estimate the power of exercising, eating healthy and getting 8 hours of sleep. The earlier you start the easier it is to make these habits your lifestyle. Alcohol and drugs sound cool but they do no good to your health and it is definitely not cool behaving like a retard or puking all through post alcohol consumption. Please do not make your life dependent on alcohol or drugs.
3. Start Saving – The sooner you start to think and act on bringing financial stability in your life the better it will be when you hit 30s. Try setting simple financial goals like how much you will spend and how much you will save for travel, retirement, house, marriage, car, etc. Financial problems can lead to stress and can affect you for decades to come.
4. Work on Yourself – Learn about your weaknesses, strengths, what make you happy, what motivates you. Learn to accept your mistakes, learn to say sorry and keep hustling. Romantic relationship, career, social opportunities/ obligations all can be overwhelming. Learn to deal with emotions and situations and not be a victim. Most important of all, be kind and humble to others.
5. Enjoy – While you are still figuring all about adulthood, do not forget to enjoy the process. While you think that you don’t have your shit together, believe you me, it is perfectly alright. Things that make you happy in your 20s may feel too kiddish in your 30s, so enjoy your 20s. Great things will happen and so will bad so enjoy every bit of the former and for the latter just hang in there, that phase will get over.